How To Choose Your Other Half???
Perhaps one of the main topics that consumes a teenager’s focus nowadays is love. We are overwhelmed by media and movies about pink rose stories related to couples and marriage, such stories vary in audience and content, some of them are targeted for grown ups and others for toddlers. Regardless of content or audience, the effects of such stories create peer pressure which could potentially lead to wrong decisions when it comes to choosing your lifetime partner. Lets us navigate through what I consider are the best practices in finding your other half, whatever you are going to read here belongs to my own and only personal point of view towards the topic. This point of view was built by having a prolonged discussion with one of my personal stakeholders who Enlighted me through the path of this analysis.
We were always instructed to focus on one’s personality and behavior as those are the only qualities which will ensure a smooth and durable relation, but what will happen in case you focus on others aspects as a priority? Let me start by providing a diagram about the process I recommend you undergo in this quest, remember this person is going to spend with you two thirds of your life:
Keep in mind the above flowchart as I explain furthermore the implications of each approach you consider:
- If you choose to be superficial and skeptical at the beginning and the relation works, you will be considered as a person who chose a good match. If the relation doesn’t succeed you will be still a good person as you refused a good match for moral purposes
- If you choose not to be superficial at the beginning and the relation works, you might end up with the person who will not fulfill your physical needs. If the relation doesn’t work then you will be a bad person who refused a partner due to physical appearance.
Notice that starting with a materialistic check at the beginning will mostly end up with a win to win situation, however avoiding that approach might end you up choosing a bad match.
Beside that, one last factor I would recommend after the above quest has been accomplished is family. Do a check on your partner’s family as usually you end up marrying a family rather than a family member. Imagine yourself among them, are they gonna understand you and your needs? Are they gonna stand up by your side when the shit hits the fan? Are they gonna treat you as a daughter rather than a daughter in law?. The reality that you have encountered your “perfect” match does not necessarily imply you will fit in his/her home environment. Most people wonder how this check can be done, well easy, engage more with them, familiarize yourself with their customs and taboos, ensure that once you are among them you don’t have that eager feeling to leave their space, because once you start feeling it, it means that a catastrophe is building up in the horizon.
As human beings, we are characterized by community and family qualities. We are always searching for peers and companions. The process to get the right partner could be harsh and confusing and even in sometimes fatal. Prioritize your needs and wills, and at least give a try to my approach into this topic. If you don't manage to get all my tests and checks done it doesn't mean your relation is going to fail, there are many factors and variables which affect a relationship. However my advice is to at least give a try to my approaches and tests to ensure potentially better results.
